Tips dating man 20 years older

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He’s confident and can teach you a thing or two with his advice. This is great for me, since I am a whirlwind during the week and it balances me out.

He may be older, but he’s learned a lesson or two about making money, saving money and balancing his checkbook. He’s been through multiple ups and downs in relationships, and his feelings are in check. With endless kisses, hugs and soft lit candles, he goes the distance to make sure you are happy and satisfied.

I had a normal childhood, but I have been living in the “adult world” since I was a kid. I was around adults all my life -- events, parties, meetings -- so I really knew it no other way.

The only thing probably missing in my life is a partner, a published book and an owned property… To elaborate even further, I’m an only child, and growing up, I never had many close friends. I was teased and picked on a lot from the kids at school. I guess that’s where I began the attraction for the older man type, and it used to freak my mother out.

At the end of the day, I need to do what’s best for me.

Here are a list of pros and cons to consider if you decide to date older: Whether it’s in his career, knowledge acquired overtime, relationships or even in the bedroom, this man knows what he’s doing and knows what he wants.

I never babysat the kids in my neighborhood once; I couldn’t relate to kids at all. I would crush on older guys when I was 13, but I really didn’t start actually dating an older guy until I was 26; he was 40.

Though compatibility factors are important for any relationship, the stakes are even higher for relationships with major age discrepancies.

I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough.

Don’t embrace any rigid rule about age differences. Don’t be fooled into thinking that just because someone is older, he or she isn’t very sexual.

Think about friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, and even extended family members with whom you socialize.

Now, insert a significantly older partner in that picture.

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