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Engage in these conversations throughout your dating experience, especially in anticipation of each stage of a developing relationship.
Teens and adult children need to move toward your dating partner at their own pace.
If you fall in love don’t abandon your kids by spending all of your free time with your newfound love. Do your relationship a favor, encourage the single parent you are dating to “go home” and be with their kids, without you, every once in a while. But then this relationship is as much about them as it is about you.
It’s tempting, but doing so taps your child’s fears that they are losing you and gives the false impression to your dating partner that you are totally available to them. This has two benefits: (1) it helps lessen the fears of the children; and (2) it keeps perspective in your relationship. Having said that, let me be candid: if you can’t get used to this notion and learn how to deal with it, then you’ll be a lousy, miserable stepparent.
This sabotages the ability of a stepparent and stepchild to get off on the right foot with one another and puts the family at risk.
The kids are engaged, at least on some level, even when you don’t think they are. My newest book, Dating and the Single Parent, examines the complex process of finding love in the midst of a crowd and includes a number of dating best practices for single parents and the singles who date them.
You might, for example, engage in an activity with your partner and their children one weekend and then have your partner join you and your kids the next.
Navigating multiple new relationships can be overwhelming.
Tread lightly at first and continue to monitor and process everyone’s fear or concerns.
If the other person has children as well, it might be wise to orchestrate early get-togethers with just one set of children.