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Christians are called to a life of repentance, a life in which Christ is God and my life is His.
Sex, even “great” sex, is a normal part of life for married Christians; but, and here is the irony for our culture, great sex is the byproduct of Christ-like loving and giving in the context of a life-long relationship.
(I probably didn’t surprise anyone.) Good people are good people no matter where you find them.
Hang out with good people and you will become a better person.
Unfortunately, our culture has taught us that sexual attraction is key to finding a suitable life partner; in fact for much of our culture, good sex is the highest form of transcendence conceivable.
But let me state the obvious: this is not a Christian culture.
When a couple do not share the same faith and same religious commitment, then when the going gets tough, where do they go for help?Good marriage is based on my caring for and loving the other, even when it doesn’t always feel good to me. Above I said that good people are good people no matter where you find them, but if you begin to think you might want to spend the rest of your life raising children with someone, then religion is very important.For most people, when things are going well religion is not a very important part of their life (no matter how strenuously they protest that it is). It records the common experience of God’s people: when things are going good (when we “grow fat”) we ignore God.For most of history and in a large but shrinking portion of the Orthodox world today, single people did not have to worry about who they would marry: someone else chose for them. We cannot imagine not choosing our own hair style, clothing and career path; much less not choosing our own spouse.In the best cases, the people involved had veto power; that is, neither one had to accept the match. We vainly imagine this power of choice is the same as freedom, but if we have no basis on which to choose other than our subjective urges, transient likes and dislikes, and fantasies based on movies, novels and occasional glimpses at internet pornography, then choice is not freedom but bondage: bondage to the ideals of a sick culture and the passions of a fallen mind.