Dating hot and cold men
However, if you actually do love him despite his flaws, or if you’ve bonded with him in a special way that’s beyond the superficial, (more on that in a moment) then I can help you. If you resist sleeping with him, he can’t keep doing the same hot and cold cycle because he will soon learn that his cold behavior only brings cold, non-flirty behavior from you too. Reward him slightly for the “hot” phase, the good attention that he gives you. In essence, you’re training him to be always hot and always attentive. Reward him a LOT when he is actually trying to be real and honest with you.
Reward him, when he makes a genuine effort to communicate with you about who he is and what he really wants.
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
He can’t seem to get enough of you, and is constantly texting or calling.
Your system of reward and non-reaction is the best defense against a player.
So if you’re not interested in what these guys provide (which is sex and mind games) DON’T fall for the cycle. Nah, never going to go anywhere because you can’t change a man from what he is or what he wants in a relationship. If they did, they wouldn’t be “playing.” Now the complicated part comes with option (2) where you really do like him but you know he’s playing you, since he’s doing the Hot and Cold thing.
I’ve some women who ask me about the dangers of dating “players”.
And they ask me questions like, “How do I avoid falling for their lies?
So let’s review some more details about WHY women find players attractive in the first place and see if we can analyze how to better deal with these guys, knowing what their strategy is.
One of the most obvious signs that you’re dating a player is if he’s doing the old “hot and cold” routine.