Dating and oral sex
Women were almost three times as likely as men to say that their partner's cheating caused a lasting tension and lack of trust.
Men are either more forgiving or just harder up: Only 6 percent of male cheatees say their sex lives were worse after their partner's infidelity. Ironically, a wandering partner may be doing you a big favor.
"Sometimes a crisis shows you what is really important," says Schwartz.
"Infidelity is sometimes caused by each person, or by one person in particular withholding love, affection and sex.
Using a random sample of 1,670 Americans ages 45 and older, it revealed exactly what older Americans do behind closed doors (and plenty of other places), as well as their honest opinions about things you'd typically get punched, slapped, or arrested for asking. Baby, It's Cold Inside Wondering if you're the only person in the country whose sex life has taken a dive even though you're healthy, hardy, and still highly interested in your partner? It seems that there's been an alarming drop in our nookie sessions.
(Perhaps some of these lucky "no effect" folks had struck a pragmatic arrangement; one survey respondent added, "We lived 300 miles apart at the time and agreed to a 'don't ask don't tell' policy." Gender matters, too.
We all know that infidelity is a potent relationship-destroyer, an atom bomb that few unions withstand. In pointing fingers, about 12 percent of both sexes say that their partner cheated on them-which hints that many ladies are too optimistic about their man's whereabouts at this very second.
Surprisingly few people say the cheating did irreparable harm to their relationship: Roughly 40 percent report that it had no effect at all, about 30 percent think it only caused temporary tension, and a mere 6 percent or less say it was the fatal blow.
More likely, it trumps living with someone who has stopped trying.
"When people are dating, they are 'auditioning'," says Dr. "Unfortunately, many long-term couples start to put away those little affectionate details and take each other for granted.