Dating a reclusive person
In the beginning, he divulged that he was not interested in marriage or having children of his own. Do I change my expectations and continue enjoying what we have? It truly makes me reconsider the importance of the social aspect of a couple as a whole.
That’s fine for me as I am divorced and not looking to remarry. I always believed the heart and soul of a relationship was rooted in two people's strength, loyalty, and commitment to each other.
I initiate every outing and activity with a hit-or-miss success rate.
I never know if he will say yes to my family invitations.
You don't need to get married, but you do want to be part of a team. Focusing on one extra person at a time might make it easier for him to get comfortable and bond.
You mention the kid thing, too, and that seems to be a bigger issue.
His ex didn’t like most of his friends and she found it difficult to make an effort with his people so more often than not he went out without her or he stayed home to cuddle; there’s nothing wrong with cuddling but it’s easy to see why their relationship fizzled when she wasn’t willing to make an effort with his people.
But sometimes even if your partner digs your people you still drift away from your friends, which is hard for those of us left behind wondering what we did to make you want to ditch us.
I am single because despite all my efforts I haven’t yet found the person who I would want to be in a relationship with. It feels like I am losing a battle against myself, against time. I know that it’s part of life, but I am the kind of person who just likes to win. I am free to do whatever I want, I have the whole bed for myself, I don’t need to schedule my days around anyone else’s schedule — I could write a whole listicle about it, just to prove how much I know that it has advantages.But as a unit of three (myself and two kids), am I wrong or premature in wanting a more all-inclusive experience from my older, loner companion?– Alone with a Loner You're not wrong to want more. In your case, it's not about longing for a date to family occasions, it's about building a shared life. You didn't tell us whether you've confronted him much about the issue. The compromise could be trying smaller gatherings – maybe a dinner with two friends or a few family members.I'm a woman in my 30s with two elementary-age children from a previous marriage.I've been in a steady relationship with my partner for the past two years.