Bible view on dating
We must have a biblical view of dating, of sex, and of marriage, and we must have a biblical view of purity.Human sexuality is a most wonderful part of God's creation of man. Not Masters and Johnson, not some "expert," not the prevalent moral standards of two hundred years ago, not even the ideas of your "ancient" parents are to be your standard of morality. It is my goal in this pamphlet to present only what God says in His Word. And it will spare you from having a standard set for you by a mere human, a standard which might change tomorrow. And this is a rule which applies not only to Sundays, but also to Friday and Saturday nights!To their parents they often insist that dating is just "for fun." With their closest of friends, on the other hand, they are more likely to treat dating as pretty serious business.Generally these conflicting signals reflect some of the confusion which they experience within themselves as they deal with and try to understand their own emotions.On the other hand, you may date anyone who is one with you "in the Lord" (I Cor. It may be big stuff for a guy to land a date with the school's most popular girl, but dating is not a game to play in jockeying for position on the social ladder.For a serious-minded Christian, there must be higher motivation in deciding whom to ask.
You may not date a person who may not be a lifelong mate. Why go with someone whom you know you should and could never marry? Let me say first that it is wrong to date in order to satisfy one's ego, or to fulfill one's sexual desires.
The first is that I will speak as openly and as frankly about this subject as the Bible does. But God's treatment of this subject is open, and the church must be just as open.
Because I intend to make the Scriptures the only standard for our behavior, there are certain things you may take for granted. Some families skip the book of the Song of Solomon in their devotions because it is thought to be too embarrassing.
(And sometimes they may even purposely send out the signal which is most likely to confuse their parents.) Parents want to respond to both signals.
Sometimes they must say that dating is serious business, and other times they may advise that dating should be for fun. When young people "fall" quickly head over heels in "love," then their parents counsel, "Take it easy"; "Don't get so involved with just one, look around"; "Date in groups"; "Don't be alone a lot." But when young people say that dating is just for fun and that they may date whomever they want, then parents must say, "Be careful, because dating does lead to marriage." In fact, dating is the only thing that leads to marriage.